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We have a mandate from the Lord to address the “Silent Epidemic” that grips His Church: Domestic Violence – in all of its various forms. The presence of this sin in the homes and lives of those who profess a relationship with Christ is disconcerting, to say the least. Domestic Violence, practiced within our relationships and homes perpetuates generational curses of unrestrained anger, substance abuse, mental illness, depression, suicide and even homocide.
A Call to Repentance for Ministry Leaders
It is imperative that those in Leadership repent, for :
1) Engaging in these behaviors behind closed doors
2) Failing to address Domestic Violence using the platform that the Lord has entrusted to us (one survey found that 62% of Pastors never even mention it)!
3) Looking the other way
4) Making excuses or manipulating scripture to coerce the victim to remain in an abusive environment.
Know this: We will each be required to give an account for what we’ve done and failed to do regarding the”Silent Epidemic” of Domestic Violence in the Church.
If You Are A Victim, Have You Noticed: No Matter What You Do, It’s Never Enough…Care To Know Why?
You are in “covenant” with a Narcississt. Initially, you are most likely the focus of a “Love Bombing” campaign second to none. Then, gradually there are seemingly unrelated instances of volatile, irritable, demeaning behavior. Generally, at this point, the anger and animosity is aimed at those outside of your relationship.
This is calculated: it provides you an “opportunity” to establish your devotion and commitment to the narcissist. I call it the “You and Me against the world illusion”: it essentially lures you into a compromising position under the misguided belief that he/she will appreciate your obvious devotion.
Now, it’s time for the Gaslighting extravaganzas, belittling, verbal abuse. What’s really going on with these “bouts of carnality?” The abuser is testing your boundaries: do you have any? If so, where precisely are they located? Just how far can he/she push you?
Will you insist that your boundaries are respected – or will you “roll over” in the interest of being “understanding” and “supportive”? Typically at this point, if the abuser’s plan is working according to schedule, winning their approval and confidence has become critically important to you.
After all, once your narcissist is reassured, things will calm down – right? Wrong. Count on this: eventually the narcissist will stop blaming others outside of your relationship and decide that YOU in fact are the problem.
Any attempt on your part to have a rational discussion regarding how a healthy relationship is characterized by mutual sharing, give and take, or exchanging strength for weakness ( the epitome of actual Biblical covenant) will definitely expedite the “bottom falling out”.
The narcissist expects that he/she is the center of the universe – and you are to provide an endless supply of blind devotion and undergirding. Failure to do so will absolutely signal the beginning of your devaluation as a human being – and certainly as an “significant other”.
Once devaluation has begun, the handwriting is on the wall: you will be replaced with someone that has not figured out who they really are.Someone who is blindly “supportive” of the narcissist as the “struggle” to be understood and loved by their current “self centered and neglectful” partner ( you). The new ” Donor” of blind loyalty will be mesmerized by the same facade of loving, stable charisma that initially captured you.
The full fledged “discard” doesn’t typically occur until the narcissist is reasonably certain that he/she has locked down your replacement.
It is important that we are educated regarding how to identify an abuser before trusting them with our hearts, substance and lives.
Beloved, understand that there is nothing too hard for the Lord. This knowledge however, is not to be aimed at wishful thinking regarding changing the abuser’s behavior.
Direct this knowledge at allowing the Lord to change YOUR own unhealthy behaviors and mindset.
Your response to this may well be: How am I the problem? I am the victim! Are you ready? Here is the answer:
1. You were not able to discern that the “charming, charismatic narcissist” was counterfeit.
2. If you did discern it, you overrode and dismissed the Holy Spirits prompts that Gaslighting was in effect. ( ie, making excuses for bad behavior, relaxing your boundaries to accommodate the abuser, using scripture out of context to support remaining in a toxic environment).
3. You were/are more fearful of being “alone” than of the implications of remaining in an abusive relationship. The abuser, in this case has become your “god”(lower case “g” is intentional).
The Lord wants His creation and His Church to be FREE. Repent for taking the bait, seek professional help for moving into a place of emotional and spiritual healing. Be wary of taking counsel from anyone who is not experienced in helping domestic violence victims.
Being a Pastor or member of clergy DOES NOT automatically qualify someone to counsel in potentially life threatening situations. Yes, I said it! I’M NOT TAKING IT BACK.
Many have suffered extended abuse, and even lost their lives largely due to receiving horrible advice from clergy.
Come out of bondage, beloved! The Lord has need of you! At the end of the day, you are choosing between your Destined Purpose, and that abusive relationship. Choose Life! Abundant Life in Christ!
If you or someone you know is trapped in a cycle of violence, there is help available 24/7.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
National Domestic Violence Hotline : National Domestic Violence Hotline
Deaf and Hard of Hearing TTY: 1-800-787-3224
Please know that we are standing with you and warring for you, in the realm of the spirit! We believe God. He is a strong deliverer, and He is faithful! He loves us with an everlasting love!
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